Making friends as an adult can be really hard. Well, if you do drink you will definitely find drinking buddies quite easily, but you will only be able to drink with them. It is really rare that you meet somebody (doesn’t matter a boy or a girl) at the bar and become good real friends. This is because most people which go out at a bar are not looking to meet new people. They are just there to have fun. To my personal experience from all the people I’ve met at places like I couldn’t keep friends with nobody, because we didn’t really have mutual interests. That’s why it’s not a really good idea if you go out at night looking to make new friends. In the list below people on Reddit are sharing their personal experience on how they managed to make new friends. You can read the whole discussion on Reddit.
1. The tools
Actually borrowing tools and giving them back is quite a good advice. You will not make new friends, but you will keep the one you have.
2. Find people with common interests
Finding people with the same interests like yours and inviting them to a dinner is a pretty good idea as well. Those parties are always great, especially if you cook something delicious.
3. Clubs and all kind of activities
If you join some clubs for activities or hobbies you will definitely make some friends. Also when socializing make sure it’s during the day or early evenings.
4. The store
Me, personally I would never take this advice seriously, because I don’t want the people to know that I don’t have many friends, but it may actually work.
5. Anonymous meetings
I am not too sure how things will work out here, because I’ve never attended such meetings, but the there are a lot of people who claim that it is possible.
6. Engaging in different activities
I can take this advice pretty serious. Engaging in all kind of activities where people have different priorities is actually pretty good idea.
7. Volunteer at a yoga studio or gym class
Being a part time volunteer at a gym class or yoga studio may work out pretty good as well, because you will meet all kind of people with different priorities.
8. Activity partners
The guy here is correct. Many adults don’t want just friends, they want activity partners. So, all you have to do is to find your passion and people you can practice with and some natural friendships will organically raise.
9. Volunteer Girl Scout leader
Becoming a volunteer as a Girl Scout leader is pretty good idea, because all the people you will meet will have the same passions as you.
10. Dungeons and Dragons
This guy found some friends by playing Dungeons and Dragons. If it worked out for him, why not for everybody else who loves playing such games?
Practicing all kinds of sports is actually pretty good idea. You will meet people who love sports as well and you will have a lot to talk about.
12. Walking a dog
Walking a dog is a good conversation starter for real. If you have a friendly dog you will be able to meet new people who have dogs as well. When the dogs play around you will be able to socialize and start some kind of friendship.
13. School, Uni, Job
I believe that the guy here is actually correct. If you stay at home all day you will not be able to make friends.
If you have passion for motorcycles becoming a club member can actually make you some friends.
15. The old school app
This idea behind this app sounds pretty smart. It works like you are sending real letters. It takes some time to receive a reply, and you meet people based on hobbies and so on.
16. Streaming video games
This advice is pretty reasonable. The dude got some new friends when started streaming video games. He also got more confident with socializing and he also met some new people on social media.
17. The gym
As mentioned above finding interest based friends is pretty good idea, so the gym sounds like a good option.
Being a part of fandom also sounds pretty good. You will meet new people based on your mutual interests.
19. Work hard in your 20’s
This advice is pretty reasonable. Work hard in your 20’s and party in your 30’s when you are all set up. Don’t fall for that easy life of the ‘influencers’, bartender and so on. They will eventually at some point get pushed of their jobs for the new kids on the block and they will panic. If you do work hard in your 20’s and have a good position by your 30’s you will be able to hang out a lot and also to my personal experience a lot of people want to be friends with successful people.
20. Clubs, volunteer, meet up events
This advice pretty much sums up all we have said so far. The guy here is actually correct, if you are not will to do any of those you are not actually looking for friends.
21. Going to bars without drinking
It is actually a good idea to hang out at some bars and drinking coca cola or water. You will just have to make sure you will not get angry on people who have had some drinks.
As we have mentioned above Crossfit and all kinds of sports are pretty social.
23. Rock climbing gym
If you do like Rock climbing, it is a pretty good idea to join such a gym
24. The sober one
This dude quit drinking like 5 years ago and he’s super happy about it.
25. The happiness
This guy here doesn’t have any friends and he’s pretty happy about it.
26. The listener
This guy is not into bars. He has other hobbies. The good advice here is that he’s a listener. A lot of people are making the mistake to talk about themselves too much when meet new people. Most of the time people will get bored if you talk about yourself too much.
27. Don’t care what other people think
The advice here is to not care what others think about you. The example with the parking lot is pretty good. If you feel like dancing on the parking lot, just do it. You will definitely meet other people who like doing so and you will eventually socialize and make friends.
28. Going to the library
It is a pretty good idea to go and hang out at the library. If you enjoy reading books you will be able to meet people who are also into reading books.
29. Accept every invitation
The advice here is pretty good as well. Accept every invitation. If you don’t feel like having a drink, don’t. As long as you are pleasant no one will mind you drinking water.
30. Inviting people to play dnd
Inviting people from online dating site to play dnd is quite a good idea. You will definitely make some friends if you have mutual interests.