Maintaining a real friendship is something really hard these days. Just like in relationship there might be a toxic friendship as well. Most of the people we will meet and tend to be our friends will actually be using us. We have created this list in order to let you know what are the signs of a toxic friendship. If you learn and are able to recognize the red flags you will be able to understand if a friendship is real or not. In the following list people are letting us know their opinion on what should raise red flags. You can read the whole discussion on Reddit.
1. Not being able to express yourself
A big red flag is when you can’t really express yourself and you should hold your tongue.
2. Dismiss all your interests
Not caring about your interests and talking only about theirs is another red flag that you should consider.
3. The favours
If somebody is asking you for favours all the time, but is busy when you need him/her it is definitely a red flag that you should definitely consider.
4. Talking to you when all of their friends are gone
Talking to you when there is nobody else to talk to is something that you should notice and keep in mind as well.
5. Always talking about themselves
People who always talk about themselves, but never ask about you should definitely raise another red flag.
6. Not being able to apologize
If a person is not able to apologize that means that he may have an ego which will definitely affect your friendship.
7. Can’t give you 100%
If somebody is requiring something, they should be able to give the same. If they don’t you should consider is seriously.
8. See it coming
This person didn’t see it coming, but if you think about it you will be able to. Just read ‘between the lines’ and everything will be great.
9. Talking about you
If they talk about other people in front of you there is a great chance that they are talking about you as well.
10. Pushing somebody out of the group
If they push somebody out of a group you should consider it, because you might be next.
11. They call you only when they need you
Another great sign of toxic friendship is when they call you only when they need you.
12. Don’t really care about you
If they don’t really ask about you and are turning every conversation about themselves it should raise another red flag.
13. Not being happy for your success
If they are not happy for your success and happiness, but are very close when you are sad are not real friends.
14. Ask, but never take advice
People who always ask you for advice, but never take it and always involve you in their drama are giving you another red flag you should consider.
15. Passive aggressive insults
If your friend is making passive aggressive insults to other friends is definitely a red flag.
16. Never being supportive
If your friend never supports you, but instead is pointing your flaws is a sign for a toxic friendship.
17. Constantly doing something
If your friends are constantly doing something like this you should definitely stop for a minute and think about your friendship
18. Possessive friends
If your friend is too possessive this is also a red flag that you should consider.
19. Hanging out with them is difficult
If hanging out with your friend give you hard time you should stop and think about it for a minute. Maybe, this is a red flag you should consider.
20. The dominating friend
If your friend is trying to always dominate you this is definitely a sign of toxic friendship.
21. When they always lie
If you can’t trust your friend, he/she is not really your friend.
22. Censoring yourself
If you have to censor yourself all the time this is another red flag.
23. Talking only about them
As we have mentioned above if your friend is talking only about him/her this is definitely a red flag.
24. Canceling plans last-minute
If they are canceling your plans in the last minute this is definitely a sign of a toxic friendship.
25. Manipulative friends
If they are trying to control or manipulate you, you should think about your friendship in general.
26. The one way street
Friends that will never call or check up on you are not really your friends.
27. Feeling better when they are not around
If you do feel better when they are not around, they are definitely your friends.
28. Playing the victim
If they pressure you to do something and are playing the victim whenever you get angry, this is definitely a sign of a bad friendship.
29. When they do not value you
If they don’t value something you achieved or did, this is a huge red flag.
30. Always on their phones
If they are always on their phones when you hang out with them means that they are not interested in you and in conversation in general and it is definitely something you should consider.
31. Joking at your expense
If they joke at your expense all the time they are not your real friends. I mean that something it is good to make a joke (every once in a while), but if this is happening all the time you should definitely consider your friendship.