We know that parenting is hard sometimes, but it is also a challenge in more ways than one. In fact, parents make it harder on themselves sometimes, and they fail to realize it, too. The list below shares the things that parents often fail or refuse to accept, and we guess most parents’ reading would probably agree with some, if not all, of the suggestions. You can read the whole discussion on Reddit.
1. The respect
If you force your kids to respect you, you will probably fail. Respect is something that you need to earn with your actions, not with demands.
2. The kids
Some parents fail to understand that their offspring may not be the kind or caring people they consider them to be. People change, especially when they grow up.
3. The hopes
Some kids will never be able to convince their parents of their own hopes and dreams, and we guess that this is one of the hardest things about the parent-kid relationship.
4. The help
There is no relation between the struggles of your children and your personality or behavior. There may be related sometimes, but not always for sure.
5. The safe haven
This is true, and we believe that people need to understand this concept. Being the person to always support and protect your children is a must, but you should never set boundaries.
6. The mistakes
Making mistakes is how you learn to live life to the fullest. We know that some people are not exactly able to let their kids make mistakes.
7. The parent
Some of the people who had several kids tend to appoint the oldest one among them as their helper or even substitute, but no kid is ready to be a parent.
8. The life
Some people think that they have the right to make their kids the things they have failed at in the past, but there is no such type of compensation for past mistakes or missed opportunities.
9. The mental health
We know that some people can easily understand this concept, but others mostly refuse to admit that their kids could have such issues to deal with.
10. The manners
Some people expect others to be responsible for raising their kids the right way. Truth to be told, proper education and manners are learned best at home.
11. The autonomy
Watching over your kids like a hawk that protects its nest is not the way to go in most cases, as kids need to have autonomy when growing up.
12. The spoiled kids
Many people think that being a good parent is equal to never denying their kids anything. We believe that some people need to understand that spoiled kids will struggle in the future.
13. The apology
Whenever you need to apologize to your kids, you better get straight to it, as kids will remember this moment and they will respect you for doing it.
14. The struggles
There is nothing better than having a kid that understands and supports their parent, and vice versa. There are parents who need to admit their kids go through their own hardships.
15. The opinions
As kids grow, their parents need to start learning that their offspring will have an opinion of their own. We guess that this is hard, but it is a must.
16. The bullies
Ignoring bullies might sometimes be the answer, but we also know that people often need to stand up for themselves if they want to deal with the problem.
17. The point
We understand that parents need to understand there comes a point in which they are not the boss anymore, and we are certain that some people refuse to admit that.
18. The time
At one point in your parenting journey, you become less of a parent and more of a friend, and we understand that this is very important.
19. The different people
Children are not obliged to walk inside your shoes or become the very same thing you have become. There is nothing better than letting your kids become whatever they want to be.
20. The human
We believe that this is the simplest concept about parenting that is mostly neglected. There are people who think they should dictate their kids’ lives, and that is a mistake.
21. The memory
This is the kind of behavior that many parents are used to, but it does not make them any favors. Quite the contrary, actually: kids remember it all.
22. The yelling
There are moments when some parents will be forced to admit their kids have a learning disability, and this is the time to act responsibly.
23. The shopping
We have all seen kids throwing tantrums when they are forced to accompany their parents during a shopping spree. No wonder about that.
24. The way
Here is a classic example of how something parents do that is nothing but wrong will backfire in their face, and you can see why that happens.
25. The words
There is something that many parents never accept or understand: the fact that their kids learn everything from them, both the good and the bad stuff.
26. The generations
Some parents insist on knowing better than their kids. Still, once those kids become adults, they are likely going to understand how to do things better.
27. The quote
Here is one parenting tip that could make all the difference between being a good parent and an awesome one. Most people don’t do this.
28. The average kids
Every parent thinks of their kids as if they are some kind of genius, but the harsh reality is that most kids are average, and there is nothing wrong with that.
29. The responsibility
There is no doubt about all of this, but we know about people who think that neither of these things is their obligation. Yes, it is.
30. The adults
Here is a great perspective of parenthood. We understand that kids are cute and sweet when young, but you need to treat them as adults.
31. The childhood
There are parents who will always refuse that they failed at something, and they would insist they did everything the right way.
32. The scamp
Here is yet another post that explains why parents need to step back and take another look at their kids sometimes. They might not be the people they thought them to be.
33. The trophies
There is nothing weirder than a parent that wants their kid to get such a trophy badly, without the kid actually wanting one or caring about it at all.
34. The property
Giving your kids commands and shaping their life without asking them about anything is one of the worst things you could do.
35. The angels
Some people grow up and they continue to be their parents’ “little angels”. This is not the best way to treat your kids when they are in their 20s or 30s.
36. The things
Parents often hide things from their kids, but it is the other way around, too, especially if the parents tend to be a bit too judgemental.