Some people will never understand the things they did wrong. Instead, they will insist on the reasons for their actions. This is what this story a woman posted on Reddit is about. After suffering from a partial disability, the woman had to stay at home and do all the chores while her husband was at work. She found this hard and wanted to have a job, so the chores at home would be split evenly between her and her husband. When she finally landed an interview after failing too many times, her husband canceled it behind her back, telling her he spared another disappointment. She flipped out and yelled at him, after which he deleted her social media accounts. She thought she was the one to blame, but Reddit users had a different opinion. You can read the whole discussion on Reddit.
Here is the initial story:
And here is how people reacted about that story:
1. The advice
The part about the husband deleting the wife’s social media accounts was enough for this user to give a straightforward piece of advice.
2. The friends
It seems that this person wanted the wife to realize that it was not about her doing a mistake or not. We guess this is a post worth thinking about.
3. The abuse
We are convinced that there is no telling just how many women have been through this, or even worse, but they never shared any of it.
4. The lawyer
This is another valuable piece of advice, and we can all agree that this woman would need to get a lawyer at some point. The husband would probably never clean up his act.
5. The control
Some people try to control their spouses in every possible way, but we guess that they only succeed if they are allowed, so a zero tolerance policy would be a must.
6. The tactics
This is as simple as it gets, and we guess the woman who shared the story needs to read this carefully. These really are huge red flags.
7. The spouse
Here is how one person who was in a similar situation shared their own experience. It seems that they have an entirely different partner by their side.
8. The behavior
It really seems that this husband tries to apply all the tricks in the book of manipulative hacks, and this woman needs to plan her next move.
9. The controlling
This user decided to give the best advice possible, given the situation, and there is no wonder about that. Most people would agree with this.
10. The concern
In such moments, people often think that there is not much of problem, but there is. In this particular case, things could only get worse, we guess.
11. The sentence
It seems that most of the users who decided to comment on this matter think that even the opening sentence is enough for this person to reconsider her opinion.
12. The life
Nobody should be controlled like that, and we guess that every basic human right this person has may be violated at one point.
13. The requirements
We guess that this person also told the obvious, and we are sure that the wife already knew what was happening, hence her reaction to what he did.
14. The keeper
No matter how many times you read this story, we guess that you will always come to the conclusion that the husband simply wanted his wife to be dependent on him.
15. The indoors
Many people think that a wife should stay at home while her husband provides for the family, but this is simply not true.
16. The post
No wonder most people agree that the whole story sounds like a classic case of a husband who tries to manipulate his wife.
17. The accounts
This is a post that suggests the person probably had access to the woman’s accounts or he was able to hack into them easily, meaning that he always controlled that.
18. The form
Yes, there is no doubt that such a dynamic is nothing but a type of behavior that deprives the wife of every right to be independent.
19. The title
Here is how one user put things very simply, and we agree with this post. There are people who would never think about leaving such a person, though.
20. The husband
Here is a person that actually wrote a warning that this wife should listen to and accept as an option. She should probably find a way to protect herself.
21. The control
Here is a nice idea that could completely out-throw the husband’s attempts to cancel the job interview. We only hope it does not turn against her.
22. The run
We guess that only those who have been through a similar situation would be this certain that it’s time to pack all bags and leave.
23. The alienation
The whole story sounds just like this user suggested. Such an attempt to alienate his wife from virtually everyone and everything is not accidental.
24. The toxic relationship
Even if we assume the whole thing is nothing but a misunderstanding (which is not), we are sure the wife not being happy is an indication of a toxic marriage.
25. The plans
Getting out of such a relationship is always the best thing to do. It needs a good plan and its careful and meticulous execution.
26. The terrified person
We know that some people are not entirely fond of changing their lives, even when they are threatened in some way, and this wife surely is.
27. The confrontation
The wife was surely right to confront her husband for doing what he did, and the fact that she felt bad afterward shows how vulnerable she is.
28. The income
This is a fact, judging by the story shared by this wife. If the husband canceled her interview using this silly argument, this means he wants his wife to be reliant on him.
29. The work
The husband clearly tried to limit his wife’s options to find work, and he canceled the only real opportunity she had, which is awful.
30. The guy
We guess that if things get worse, this wife would probably have very limited chances to get away from the marriage that turned into an abusive relationship.
31. The distance
Here is one of the most reasonable pieces of advice shared by users who commented below the original post. Some time to reflect on the situation would be valuable.
32. The talk
Except for posting on Reddit, this woman surely needs to talk to someone and probably seek all the help she could get.
33. The new account
Well, there you have it – another person who only read the first line and immediately knew that this person was NTA for sure.