Some marriages are harder than others, and there are a plethora of possible reasons for that. We believe that some people would agree that the hardest ones can be between people who both have kids from prior marriages. The story shown here is a similar one. A woman ended up living in the same house with her ex after the divorce, together with her teenage daughter. He was cool enough to continue providing for her. Even when the woman remarried, her ex accepted the new husband and his own daughter from a previous marriage, and eventually, the big house was left at their disposal.
The ex was making a lot of money and even bought his daughter a $60,000 car. The step-daughter was envious and wanted the same, but the new husband had no way of providing his daughter with the same vehicle, and she threw a tantrum. The wife didn’t want to be in dept only because of a car, but she still thought that she might be wrong with denying her step-daughter such a gift. It seems that she isn’t wrong about doing so, but she asked Reddit about it, just to make sure. You can read the whole discussion on Reddit.
Here is how the discussion started:
– Brief introduction to the whole story
– Her new husband is great, but doesn’t earn as much as her ex
– Her step-daughter throws a tantrum on her and her husband, because they want to buy her a budget car
– She’s refusing, because they can’t afford it
And here is how people reacted:
1. The car
Well, this is a legitimate answer to the thread, and we guess that since the other mother was continually turning the girl against her new step-mom, this is the way to go.
2. The reason
There is no need for a temper tantrum here. Any teenager would be able to realize that their family could not buy them a car worth this much money.
3. The budget
It seems that the step-daughter needs to be grateful for the fact that she might get a car in the first place. Not all teens receive cars from their families.
4. The insurance
We guess that being able to buy an expensive car for your kid is an awesome thing, but not everyone is capable of covering such an expense.
5. The things
Kids sometimes don’t care about reality. They just want to have things their way and, more specifically, have everything other kids around them have.
6. The emotions
This person has a point, as there will be no other way for this girl to understand why the things she wants are impossible other than getting help outside the family.
7. The parents
We also think that this is a strategy that the girl uses. She probably considers her behavior to result in getting what she wants after creating a stir.
8. The husband
Life is sometimes not fair, and this is what the situation here is all about. One dad could buy the car and the other one couldn’t. It is as simple as that.
9. The fathers
The two girls in this story are raised in the same way, but they benefit from different sources of income, and this is just how life goes.
10. The lesson
Some kids need to understand that nothing in life happens at the touch of a button or when you snap your fingers. An expensive car at 16 is not anyone’s obligation.
11. The brat
We guess that some people fail to realize money does not grow on trees, and it is easy to want something when you see others enjoying expensive stuff.
12. The car
It all comes down to having a rich father. One of the girls had such a provider, but the other girl didn’t and this is how life goes.
13. The straits
We guess that a family that is referred to as middle class would never have a valid argument to spend $60k on a car for their teenage daughter.
14. The side
This is clearly a post that underlines how simple the whole thing is. The stepdaughter needs to understand that it all comes down to the two dad’s incomes.
15. The car
The stepdaughter has no direct relation to the rich ex who bought the $60k car, meaning that she has no reason to want the same thing.
16. The consequences
The mother is surely under no obligation to provide the same kind of things that her ex provides, and this is something very easy to understand.
17. The conversation
Yes, this is how this conversation should go, and we guess it is a simple concept to understand by a 16-year-old teenager. She will not get that car because nobody owes it to her.
18. The husband
The new husband surely loves his daughter, but he is under no obligation to prove that love by getting her a very expensive car he cannot afford.
19. The life
This girl needs to understand that life is different for all of us, and we are not entitled to get everything others have. This is an important concept to understand.
20. The money
There is no doubt that we all want to have as much money as we can, but life does not work that way, so we simply need to be grateful for what we have.
21. The budget
Your kids may want a lot of things, but it all comes down to having the budget to cover them. In this case, the kid’s desire couldn’t be fulfilled.
22. The lesson
We guess that the girl who wanted the same expensive car as the first daughter probably realized that there are no equal or fair things in life.
23. The car
There is no doubt that purchasing a car that is almost equal in value to the whole family’s yearly budget is definitely not a good idea to begin with.
24. The wages
Here is yet another user who finds zero reasons in the fact that the new husband is still considering the purchase of an extremely expensive car for their budget.
25. The acting out
We guess that the girl wanted a car and insisted on it, hoping that the father would probably feel guilty or obliged to provide it.
26. The funding
We guess that the fact the ex left the house for his wife and her new husband to use is a big enough gift, so the stepdaughter would need to be grateful for living there.
27. The debt
Giving a teen everything they want simply because they threw a temper tantrum would only result in them making the same scene over and over again.
28. The consideration
We fully agree with this post. There are no reasons for these people to simply buy this car. They would be in huge debt for years to come.
29. The comparison
This user also suggests that the spoiled stepdaughter should ask her mother for such a gift, similar to how the other ex bought the other daughter a car.
30. The obligation
Yes, this is how you can simply put the reality about this situation. We know that the stepdaughter would probably never understand that.
31. The spoiled daughter
Most people would probably agree with this post, as it really does seem the stepdaughter is rather spoiled. She probably knew that already.
32. The children
Here is a completely different opinion from the ones above. We understand this, but the reasons seem to be weaker than what the situation is all about.
33. The shoes
We guess that everyone who is 16 or older would be able to understand the situation and why things are not equal or why they could never be, too.
34. The match
This is not a situation where the two girls should have matched everything. It is not that kind of family, and it is obvious to see.
35. The divorce
This also makes sense, but it is not a good enough reason to buy another expensive car.